Fear of success plagues all entrepreneurs. And even though that seems CRAZY on the surface level (because we all are looking for success), it’s really because of one simple thing that lurks in our subconscious:
When we put ourselves out there, we are open to all the feedback… good and bad.
I’m not sure about you, but I have caught myself dimming my light too many times because something deep inside me is held back by the fact that someone out there may not agree with what I am doing or teaching.
After emailing the students in a free 5-day class I hosted, I received the following feedback….
“I think that if you were doing as well as you say you were you in your mlm you would not have abandoned the team you built to become a trainer. You would still be building. You would be showing your downline how to duplicate your online skills instead of struggling mlmers. Your income would be substantially higher than it is now. And you would still be teaching, training and giving back. I think it was harder and more frustrating building your mlm and you decided to quit. You found that it would be easier selling to frustrated mlmers. So I for me I feel like it’s a credibility issue. That’s why I chose not to buy. That plus you’re not building a team now so your teaching methods aren’t as relevant as they once were. What worked then doesn’t work the same as it does today. Everything moves too fast.”
Back 6 years ago when I was newer to the game, this would have hurt. But today, I just chuckled. I mean, I get it! Everyone is entitled to their opinion AND I asked for it, so being offended after asking is just silliness, ya?
Just because I got this feedback DOES NOT make me want to stop. If anything, it inspires me to keep going and to share my story MORE!!
Strangely enough, I am grateful for this message!
Do not dim your light for others.
The truth is, no matter how you show up, people will judge and criticize, so you might as well show up as YOU, fully confident and authentic to who you are (even if people don’t know or understand where you came from). Because when you are trying to be someone other than who you really are, you attract the WRONG people and miss out on all the RIGHT people!
Also, I will say this. It’s okay to change and shift and move directions. The feedback above shamed the fact that I left my old career, acting as if I have no street cred because of it… come on now! That’s just this person’s own limiting beliefs coming to the surface. Which brings up another point about receiving feedback from others…. WE ARE ALL MIRRORS OF EACH OTHER! What people send your way is a direct reflection of fears they have and fears you have! We are all here to help each other heal and grow past those fears.
I would be lying if I said I never thought “Will people actually trust me? Even if I am not building my own network marketing business?” and clearly that deep fear is being mirrored back to me.
Acknowledge the fear, then say no thank you.
“I see you, I feel you, but you are no longer serving me.”
And just to note, this was not the only feedback I got about this topic, someone else specifically asked me why I left my company if this method of training was so great. She and I chatted, and she ended up joining TRYbe! Why? I’m not sure, but I have a sense it was because I was being honest and being myself and that clearly resonated with her!
Do not let anyone shame you for following your light, even if it’s in a new direction.
Allow that feedback to ignite your light to be BRIGHTER and BOLDER! Let that feedback be a sign that you are on the right path!!!
Here is a little blog I wrote about Why Leaving is Hard, but Necessary. I chat about the move I made from my MLM business into the business I have today. Check it out if you’re curious.
I’ll leave you with this thought provoking poem…
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”